Being Happy: Breaking the “If only I had a …. Then I’d be happy” myth.

If only I could have a tattoo, I would be Soooo Cool!

A recent thought?  Not unless you call 1978 recent.

Yes I really did think that a tattoo would somehow make me cool, but then again I was 16.

Now looking at all the ugly tattoos around I am glad I could never make up my mind what to get. There were so many designs to choose from.

Being Happy – Not so easy to define.

It seems remarkable to me that many adults have forgotten what it means to be happy.

We plan, work and plot our way to the newest possession or experience thinking that somehow it will be the key to our being happy. Yet only a short  time later we are looking in some other direction.

It is my belief that sometimes we have to re-discover what makes us happy.

The first thing we need to do is find what really makes us happy.  Not the faddish kind of things, like the newest gizmo, gadget or tattoo, but the things we really want to do with our lives.

This may sound easy, but in reality we are complex beings and finding what makes us happy can take time.

There is no one thing that can make us happy, because happiness is more a state of being than the accumulation of possessions.

On being happy, 5 simple steps

being happy1. Write: 

There is no magic formula, but a great place to start is to make a list of all the things that make you happy.  Things that bring joy and a sense of fulfillment.  I found its best to brainstorm a long list, and include all the things you dreamed of doing as well.

2. Organize:

After we make our list, begin to organize them to best suit your current needs or objectives. We can place them under topics, in order of importance, or even in a long-term planning calendar. Whatever way we choose, it’s important to organize them into smaller groups as not to get overwhelmed.

3.  Start: 

After we have our list organized, start to pick the easiest things to do first. This is a great inspirational tool. Since accomplishing goals is typically more motivational than failing, and starting easy helps us find success early in the process.

4. Evaluate: 

As we begin to work on our goals and objectives, we can find out which ones bring the most satisfaction. Then, over time, we can identify the things that truly bring us the most prolonged happiness.

5. Set Living on Purpose Goals:

There is a Japanese Proverb that goes: Vision without action is a daydream. Action without vision is a nightmare.

When it comes to being happy we need both vision and action.  We must know where we find happiness and take steps to do it.   This is why we must learn to set goals that help us live with a sense of purpose. Being happy and finding purpose are often synonymous.

So stop daydreaming about being happy and do something about it!


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